2. If you become a believer after having been married to an unbeliever, do not seek a divorce. You have the opportunity to evangelize your spouse.
4. Do not regard marriage as the solution to the problems of life. Marriage is not a problem solving machine, but a problem making machine. The more problems that you bring into marriage, the less chance the marriage has of succeeding. If you cannot solve your problems alone, you can not solve them in marriage.
5. Do not marry on a wave of libido, which is tantamount to getting married in the attraction stage. This is especially true in teenage marriages.
6. Do not marry a person involved in substance abuse, which includes alcohol and drugs.
7. Do not marry to escape from an unhappy home life, abusive parents, or an unhappy set of circumstances.
8. Do not marry a status symbol, for security, or because of peer pressure. Status symbols are usually troublesome persons. Do not marry for money, or to improve your economic situation, or for financial security. Do not go in debt to get married. Do not believe that two people can live as cheaply as one person.
9. Do not marry because you love and want children. Children do not improve a marriage, nor do they ever save a marriage.
10. Do not marry a person for his or her beauty or attractiveness alone. Beauty gives little indication of the real character of a person