Immersed in His Grace

Genesis 2:18

And the Lord God command said, “It is not good that the man should be alone: I will make him an help meet for him.  

God is perfect; therefore, His works are perfect.  Since God invented marriage for imperfect people, He had to make rules for its success.

  God has created ONE man for ONE woman and ONE woman for ONE man.  This means the wife like the man must prepare herself in the Lord to be the wife for the man that is being prepared.  Likewise, the husband must be prepared to be the right man for her by becoming prepared in the Lord.  Physical distances are not an issue for the prepared couple.  The Sovereign of this universe and all of creation is not limited by time or space and can match up the prepared couple.  Any serious Bible study will teach us that God will only use the prepared vessel and there is no greater vessel on earth than that which represents the Divine Institution of marriage.  The enemy is hard at work in his efforts to destroy marriage for this reason.

Sin is an obstruction.  Learning how to deal with the sin nature if of utmost importance on the journey to becoming an excellent wife.  The ability to become a Godly wife is not in a list of good deeds.  It is found however, in a vital, thriving, real relationship with God The Father through Jesus Christ our Lord.  This paragraph is taken directly from the Women of Grace series.  For Further Study 

SEE: www.geocities.com/Heartland/Prairie/3239/lesson9.htm

a.      Husbands love your wives. Ephesians 5.15  

b.     Wives obey your husbands. Colossians 3.18

c.     Husbands and wives forgive each other as Christ forgave us. Ephesians 4.32

      The weak woman in marriage.

a.      Because men have a tendency to become hypersensitive in their relationship with a woman, it is generally conceded that women are stronger than men in certain areas of life.

b.     There are two categories of women in life:

                                                                                                  i.      The weak woman, whose arrogance is both passive and active.

                                                                                                ii.      The strong woman, whose virtue from doctrine is

c.     The passive arrogance of the weak woman is her subjective preoccupation with self, her unrealistic expectation, her role model arrogance, her feet of clay syndrome, followed by iconoclastic arrogance, and her evil motivation from her guilt complex.  She idolizes a man; then when she sees his feet of clay, she cuts him down.  That is passive arrogance motivation active arrogance.

d.     The active arrogance of the weak woman in manifest by her intrusion into the privacy of others.  She is always trying to change others to conform to her faults or legalistic ideas.

e.      The weak woman cannot execute either the plan of God or the divine mandates regarding her husband or the general rules of marriage.

f.       The weak woman becomes involved in the pattern of Christian degeneracy.  Christian degeneracy destroys marriage.

g.     In active arrogance the weak woman is always trying to change others to conform to her false and legalistic ideas and standards.

h.     In passive arrogance she never tries to change herself. 

                                                                                                  i.      Locked in arrogance, she sees no reason for self-improvement or changing self in any way.

                                                                                                ii.      You cannot change others; you can only change yourself.

                                                                                              iii.      Man has a destiny.  When he gets married, his destiny must continue.  The weak woman will often cut off a man’s destiny because it does not please her.

                                                                                             iv.      In marriage the woman must walk around the man, not the man around the woman.

i.        In marriage the woman needs a soul lift, not a face-lift.  The soul lift originates from obedience to the divine mandates.

j.        In passive virtue the woman responds to her husband in obedience.  In active virtue the woman functions in enforced and genuine humility, and objectivity.  

The un-harnessed (non-believer) woman in marriage rejects the authority of her husband.  Therefore, she will inevitably enter the three stages of Christian degeneracy.  1 Corinthians 11.8-9 reads as follows: “For the man does not originate from the woman, but the woman from the man; for indeed, the man was not created for the woman, but the woman was created for the man.”  When the woman is a blessing to the man, the woman gets the greater happiness.  This is why women are greater in making sacrifices and in patience.

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